It is unfortunate that when
you venture outside of the United States for love
that you need to be extra careful with the women you
court and the dating services you use. The
prevalence of dishonesty, fraud, and neglectful
service from international marriage agencies is very
high. These guidelines will help you select a
marriage agency (mail order bride service) with
integrity and capability.
Are The Women Profiled Real? Do not use an
international marriage agency strictly based on the
number of beautiful women profiled on the website.
Any agency that has a high percentage of beautiful
women should be suspect. Beautiful women are
naturally rare and the most sought out women are
beautiful. So it would only make sense that the most
attractive women would have the highest turnover in
a marriage agency. The best looking women will find
a man sooner because they have more suitors and in
turn they will be more difficult for a marriage
agency to replace because there are fewer beautiful
women available. To work around this, it is a common
practice for foreign marriage agencies to show
beautiful women as unattached regardless if they are
married or with boyfriend. Two other common
practices to inflate the beauty and number of women
in an agency is the theft of photos from other
marriage and model agencies websites, and illicit
arrangements with local photographers for the
purchase of personal photos of women without their
consent or knowledge.
Beautiful women profiled in a marriage agency are
meaningless if they are not available and
unfortunately that is often the case. Many
international marriage agencies will do whatever it
takes to lure beautiful women to join. This is a
translated example of an ad placed by a Colombian
marriage agency in the local paper: "[Colombian
marriage agency] invites all women interested in
meeting American and European gentlemen with the
opportunity of participating in a visa raffle enroll
and participate in social events, free photographic
session." There is no visa raffle in Colombia this
marriage agency like others is trying to entice
women to join under a false pretense of getting a
travel visa. So instead of attracting women looking
for love they attract women trying to leave the
country. The fact that you may end up with a woman
that is hiding her true intent for marrying you is
obviously of no concern to such agencies. By using a
trusted marriage agency the beauty you see will be
real and available.
Do They Have Good Referrals? A good marriage agency
should be able to provide you with many referrals.
Talk to there past clients on their experience with
the agency and the experience of other Americans
they might of met while using the marriage agency
services. If the agency provides introduction events
ask them how many guys attended the last event. Ask
if they were all successful in finding a likely
wife. If the answer is yes then ask for the contact
information for all these men. If everyone got what
they came for then the agency should be eager to
provide all the glowing references. If the answer is
no all the men were not successful find out why, ask
what the agency could have done differently to have
helped those men. Be sure everything they tell you
is consistent and reasonable. A good marriage agency
will be able to provide ample referrals to back up
their services. Your best insurance on the quality
of the marriage agency is plenty of positive
customer experiences.
Do They Have Real Testimonials Do not rely on
website testimonials that can be fabricated unless
they can be traced to a source. Find out who said
what about whom and then verify the accuracy of the
quote. It is unlikely the agency will tell you, most
international marriage agencies follow the precept
that the bigger the lie the more likely you will
believe it. Use a marriage agency that will show you
the source and full context of all their quoted
material.
Do They Have A Positive Reputation? A marriage
agency should have a good reputation find out by
accessing the dating forums that specializes in the
region of the world you are interested in. Ask the
marriage agency what are the largest active forums
in their industry. Go there and search on a
particular agency in the forum's archives. Post a
question asking about the good and the bad agencies.
An agency with a good reputation should not fear the
spotlight of the open forums. An agency with a good
reputation would participate in the forums and have
a history of dialogue that can be used to evaluate
their services. Don't make your selection a guessing
game when the recorded history is out there for a
sound judgment on the best marriage agency to use. A
marriage agency that claims not to know any
international dating forums is lying.
Is The Owner Trustworthy? Talk to the owner is he a
man you can trust. How long has he been in business
and can he verify a record of success. Be cautious
of any push to get you to sign-up prior to the next
upcoming event, you dictate the deadlines not the
marriage agency. Ask the owner what distinguishes
their agency from the others and why you will be
more successful under their care. Are you going to
be treated as an individual or as part of the pack?
Ask as many questions as possible to scrutinize all
aspects of the service you are interested in. Your
trip itinerary needs to be clearly defined.
Understand the details and specifics that will make
your travels to find a wife successful.
Do They Have An Established Office With Experience
Support? When you use an international marriage
agency that does not have a staffed office at your
arrival destination you must rely on temporary, free
lance labor. Such help will rarely have your
long-term best interest in mind. In poor, developing
countries survival often brings out the worse in
people. We have seen many examples of free lance
translators taking advantage of Americans through
theft, dishonesty and manipulation. In corrupt third
world countries a lot of effort is required to find
competent individuals with integrity and reliability
that can be trusted, particularly in delicate,
private, emotional matters. A qualified intermediary
takes training and experience. You will get neither
of this with most marriage agencies where the only
requirement is that they speak your language. The
difference between foreign women and American women
requires a cultural navigation best guided by
trained professional matchmakers that will help you
bridge the cultural differences and build a
successful relationship. You are best served by an
established local office that supports you with
full-time, experienced, trained, dedicated,
professional matchmakers who can properly assist
you.
Are They A Middleman? Most international marriage
agencies on the Internet are resellers and
franchises. They are marketing middlemen that
associate with foreign local marriage agencies. They
fabricate an alternative website and use the
database of girls from the independent foreign
agency which has its own separate website that
actually provides the services. Anytime an extra
layer is added you can expect increased delays,
miscommunications and problems. Deal with a trusted
source and verify they are not just a commissioned
agent with a good tongue for promotion and hype.
Are They An Objective Source Of Information? Many
marriage agencies will create phony dating directory
websites or dating forums that will try to mislead
you into thinking they are an objective, independent
source of information and advice on mail order
brides. They will then recommend particular marriage
agencies that unbeknown to you they own. Their
objective is to sucker you and others as a valid
resource on mail order brides when they are nothing
more then advertisement that funnels you to a
deceptive marriage agency. These false dating
directories and forums are not easy to detect
without a knowledgeable eye. While legitimate dating
directories can be a valuable resource it is best to
use a variety of the above check methods for
validating a quality marriage agency.
Do They Have a Stated Policy to Prevent You from
Being Scammed by Scheming Women? Find out what steps
the marriage agency takes to protect you from
insincere women. How often do they remove such women
from their website? What is considered unacceptable
behavior from the female members? How does the
agency protect its female members? Do not trust any
agency that promises prevention due to their
screening process. You can not screen out scammers
you can only remove those that are caught in the
act.
What Happens When You Use A Bad Marriage Agency?
Obviously you lose time and money but you also
perpetuate the continued theft and disservice for
those that will follow in your footsteps. By not
scrutinizing the marriage agency track record and
referrals you allow the non-honest marriage agencies
another day to prey on the unsuspecting. Most but
not all of the dishonest agencies will have much
lower prices than the legitimate marriage agency
because their intention is to do very little so it's
easy to flout discounted prices for services and
promises that will never materialize. By following
the above precautious in the selection of your agent
the international path for finding a quality wife
will be well worth the effort.
About the Author
About
the author, Jamie Morrow is the owner of
International Introductions
http://Latin-Wife.com a marriage agency
specializing in Latin women. His expertise is in the
Latin mail order brides industry. He can be reached
at: Jamie@Latin-Wife.com